Audrey Dinyari
1/24/14
In Solod’s article, she explores how the idea of sex has
changed over the generations. She
reflects on her parent’s marriage and how they only got married because they
wanted to have sex. If that isn’t
detrimental to the value of marriage than I don’t know what is. From having a view of sex as an act you can
only perform after marriage, to becoming an idea of a connection through a
unique form of intimate communication is the direction I hope our generation
goes down.
Our idea of what sex means has shifted considerably in just
the last generation. Yet the dictionary
definition has never changed. Being
raised by parents whose generation saw sex as usually an act you only entered
after marriage, our generation has certainly not let the past mirror the
present. With younger pre-teens entering
puberty earlier, our generation was exposed to sex earlier than our parents and
grandparents generation. We started
making dirty jokes about body parts at a younger age and the media gave us our
idea of what sex should be like. Yet
with the objectification of women as sexual items to win over, or own, society
portrays sex as domination rather than a way of getting to know someone on an
intimate level. For example statistics
of a survey show that the amount of pre-mature girls that give oral sex to boys
without expecting anything in return have increased. This sign of women acting submissive with
their sexuality only contributes to the masculine-made idea that sex is a
conquest.
From lecture, I remember that the Native American’s saw sex
as a way to get to know each other. It
was not held as a sacred act you did after your wedding day, but rather a
casual interaction that allowed two people to learn about each other in an
intimate fashion. It wasn’t until the
European settlers saw the native’s casual sex and labeled it as something
dirty. I think our generation has been
slowly making progress to seeing sex as a unique way of interaction and less of
a dominating act. Because our generation
is known for a huge increase in casual sex and “hook-ups”, we are making that
first step towards a better, more sexually equal definition of what sex
is. Women are still be somewhat
criticized for having multiple hook-ups yet men are encouraged to have as much
sex as they please. Until our society
can see a women who has had as much sex and as many sexual partners as her male
counterpart as an equal to men, the societal image of sex will be sexist.
I think we should learn from the natives of our country and
recognize that sex is a form of communication.
You are with another person in a vulnerable act and by communicating
with your bodies; you can both feel pleasure and desire. Getting to know someone on such a deep level
is the sexiest thing about sex. We need
to stop over-sexualizing women and sex and take a moment and actually think
about how it affects us.
Endnotes
Class lecture- 1/21/2014
Cyrstal Moore, Ppt, Native American Sexuality and Sexual
Violoation in the Conquest of the Americas
Lisa Solod, "What does Sex
mean to this generation?,"Hormones Matter- where health and hormones
make sense,
Pictures
Nuoya Li, "Female
Sexuality in the Media (Unit II)," Are we Doormats or
Prostitutes?:Rethinking the meanings of feminism today (2013),
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